Try saying ‘Yes, and’

‘Yes, And’ is the core tenet of improv. It means to accept and build. To be curious rather than judgmental.

Try practising positivity and openness with a ‘Yes, And’ connection.

Literally start each new sentence with “Yes, and…” rather than “No” – or the real snake in the grass “Yes, but…” It doesn’t mean you necessarily agree, but you’ll stop having the conversation you’ve already mapped out in your head and have a totally fresh dialogue. It’s immediately a lot more playful, connective, rewarding and real.

‘Yes, And’ is not about simply agreeing or rolling over. It’s not being a ‘Yes-person’. It’s about taking a step into the unknown and playing with the possibilities in the moment. And you can always gain safety and say “No” when you need to. You’re in charge.

Remember, you are not saying ‘Yes, but’! ‘Yes, but’ is a pain. It looks like acceptance, but it kills creativity and it kills confidence. ‘Yes, but’ says: “I hear you, but I can’t let go of control.” I’d say it sounds pretty nervy.

As the godfather of improv Keith Johnstone puts it: “Those who say “Yes” are rewarded by the adventures they have. Those who say “No” are rewarded by the safety they attain.”