Comparison with others… Good or bad?

Comparing ourselves to others is an innate human behaviour. We do it all the time, often unconsciously, and it plays a huge role in how we perceive ourselves, our abilities, and our overall confidence levels.

Broadly, there are two types of social comparison:

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Upward: Comparing ourselves to individuals who we perceive as better than us in some ways. This can motivate us to improve, but also lead to feelings of inadequacy or low self-esteem if overdone.

Downward: Where we compare ourselves to those who are less fortunate or accomplished. This can give us a quick self-esteem boost, but beware: excessive downward comparison can lead to complacency and stifle ambition.

So how can we balance social comparison to feel more confident?

Use upward comparison for inspiration. Instead of feeling discouraged when comparing yourself to someone more accomplished, use it as motivation. Everyone starts somewhere and improvement is possible.

Be aware of how social media affects your self-esteem. Limit exposure to content that fosters unhealthy comparison and focus on platforms that inspire and educate.

Measure your progress against yourself. Keep a journal of your achievements and look back to see how far you've come.

Understand that everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. Show empathy to others and yourself in moments of doubt or insecurity.

Social comparison can be a powerful force in shaping our confidence. But it's so important to maintain a healthy balance and remember that everyone’s journey is unique. Use comparison as a tool to boost rather than diminish confidence - your own and others’.